This attitude of life is built and cultivated. Being a better person is a learning process that accompanies us throughout life.
The willingness to practice and do good - kindness - is undoubtedly the moral feeling that allows to unleash compassion, that is, to share suffering and to act. Sometimes this emotion is confused with empathy and kindness, however, while the last are characterized by the affective and cognitive willingness to understand and try to make the other feel good, compassion does not require understanding and rationalizing the situation of suffering. Compassion is another internal impulse that makes us alleviate the suffering, the pain of another Being.
The gratification we feel when we contribute to the solution of a problem, whether ours or external to us, the positive emotion that brings us the joy of feeling that we are wanted and loved, the strength and motivation we feel when we help someone and/or we fight for the well-being of others, they are some of the fundamental vitamins to strengthen and vitalize Humanity.
If each of us practices self-compassion and kindness for ourselves, each strengthens quality relationships with others.
First, we become aware of our mistakes, sufferings, but also of our victories and successful achievements, without having value judgments or a self-critical attitude. Empathizing with our own decisions, regardless of whether they are good or bad, is the first step towards being more flexible and more open with our mistakes.
The second step is to become aware of what surrounds us, to pay attention both to the events that cause suffering and to those that cause joy and gratification, to us and to those around us. This second step allows us to strengthen our sensitivity and become aware of the responsibility that we all have to face and fight suffering and to value the common good.
The third step is to decide on what and how we can alleviate suffering, ours and/or others. For that we have to know what are our best virtues and abilities, and which of these have helped us to overcome our greatest suffering.
Deciding to take care of our well-being also allows us to act and take care of the well-being of beings who share LIFE with us.
